Appeal to the Youth
Letters From Ellen White to her Children
Volney, Iowa, Dec. 24, 1857
My Dear Children: Here we are, twelve miles from Waukon. We have had a
tedious time in getting thus far. Yesterday our horses for miles had to plough
through snow very deep, but on we came, feeling confident that our mission was
of God. Last Monday we could get no food that was fit to eat, and therefore rode
in the coldest weather I ever saw, from morning until night, with nothing to eat
but one apple. Oh, how thankful I shall be to see home, sweet home, again, and
my three dear boys, Henry, Edson, and Willie.
Children, strive to do right, and love the Lord for his merciful kindness to
you all. Obey those who have the care of you as you would your parents. Be kind
to each other, and yield to each other's wishes. Don't become unsteady. Read the
precious word of God. You should be thankful for your comfortable home. We often
suffer with cold on account of unfinished and open houses. Last night we slept
in a chamber where there was an opening through the top for the stove-pipe. If
it had stormed it would have come direct in our faces. Pray for us. Unless the
Lord opens the way for us to return, we may be blocked in with snow, and have to
remain all winter.
I hope, dear Henry, that you are a good boy, and are happy in doing right.
Continue to strive to be faithful in all things. We received your letter, and
were much pleased to hear from you. We think you have made improvements in
setting type. Be faithful, children, in all things. The Lord will soon come and
take the good and holy to himself. We want you to live among the pure and holy
angels in heaven, and wear a crown of gold, and eat of the tree of life. Trust
in the Lord at all times. Listen to the voice of conscience. Love God and you
will have his approving smile. What a thought, to have the great God, the maker
of the heavens and the earth, to smile upon and love you. Dear children, seek
for this, pray for it, live for it.
Your affectionate Mother.
Green Spring, Ohio, March 2, 1858.
My Dear Henry and Edson: Dear children, your mother has not forgotten you.
She thinks of you many times every day. We hope you will be good and faithful
children. I have been thinking, what if either of you should be taken sick and
die, and your father and mother see you no more? Would you be prepared to die?
Do you love God better than any one else? Can you forget your play to think of
God, to go away alone and ask him for Jesus' sake to forgive your sins? I know
that much of your time is taken up with your studies, and with doing errands;
but, dear children, don't forget to pray. The Lord loves to have children pray
to him. And if you really repent and feel sorry for your sins, God will forgive
your sins for Jesus' sake.
When you do wrong don't conceal your wrong, but heartily and honestly confess
it. This I believe you will do. I have confidence in you that you have tried to
do it. Continue to do so, and we shall love you better than if you kept your
wrongs concealed. God loves honest-hearted, truthful children, but cannot love
those who are dishonest. Be obedient, dear children. God has been very merciful
to you and to us. Your parents have to travel from place to place among the
people of God to try to do them good and save souls. And the Lord has inclined
sisters Jenny and Martha to come into our family, to feel an interest for you,
to love you, and to care for you, that we may leave home feeling free. They are
not related to you. They make a sacrifice. What for? Because they love you. When
you grieve them you grieve your parents also. It is not a desirable task to have
the care of children if they are ungrateful and disobedient. If you
perseveringly try to do right, you will make them happy, and they will feel it a
pleasure to deny themselves to have a care for you. When asked to do anything,
do not say, "Wait a minute, till I do this." It is unpleasant to repeat to you
the same things. Now, dear children, obey because you love to, not because you
are driven to. I shall have confidence that you will do as I wish you to. I
shall confide in your honour, your manliness.
Many times I ask myself the question, Will my dear children be saved in the
kingdom? I cannot bear the thought of their being shut out of the City with the
wicked. I love my children, but God says that only the good and holy can be
saved. And if you will overcome your wrongs, love one another, and be at peace
among yourselves, the Lord will bless and save you. You cannot be good, or do
right, in your own strength. You must go to God and ask him for strength. Ask
him that his grace may influence your hearts, and make you right. Believe the
Lord will do it; trust him to do it. You can be little Christians; you can love
and serve God.
Be good to Willie. Love him. Teach him right things. If you do wrong, you not
only sin yourselves, but you teach him to sin. When you do wrong, you teach him
to do wrong; so double sin rests upon you. Always act as you would like to see
Willie act. Always speak pleasantly to him, and try to make him happy.
Your affectionate Mother
Somerville, Mass., Sept. 6, 1859.
My Dear Son Henry: We received your letter, and were very glad to hear from
you. You must write oftener. Send us a letter at Topsham. Think of everything
you have left there and wish us to bring, and we will try to do so.
We hope you are well and happy. Be a good, steady boy. If you only fear God
and love him, our happiness will be complete. You can be a noble boy. Love
truthfulness and honesty. These are sacred treasures. Do not lay them aside for
a moment. You may be tempted and often tried, but, my dear boy, it is at such a
time when these lovely treasures shine, and are highly prized. Cling closely to
these precious traits, whatever you may be called to suffer. Let truthfulness
and honesty ever live in your heart. Never, through fear of punishment,
sacrifice these noble traits. The Lord will help you, Henry, to do right. I
believe it is your purpose to do right, and please your parents.
You may see little dishonest acts in other boys, but do not think for a
moment of imitating them. Learn to despise such things. Do not condescend to
mean talk, or to mean acts. Shun the company of those who do evil, as you would
a deadly poison; for they will corrupt every one who associates with them. Ever
have your young mind lifted up--elevated above the low, evil habits of those who
have no fear of God before them. You can have correct thoughts, correct ways,
and can form a good, pure character.
Our dear children are our treasures, and oh, how anxious we are that they
should meet the approbation of God. In his strength you can reform, but never in
your own strength. You can give the Lord your heart, and ask him to forgive your
sins, and if you move with sincerity he will accept you and make you white and
clean in his own precious blood. We, your parents, pray much for you, that you
may be a consistent, true Christian. We know that our Saviour is coming, and
will take the good and holy, the honest and pure, to dwell with him forever in a
holy heaven, where all is beauty, harmony, joy, and glory. I want you to
remember that Jesus suffered, groaned, and died for you, that his blood might
cleanse you from sin. But there is a work for you to do. May the Lord clearly
open to your young mind the plan of salvation, and lead you to give yourself
unreservedly to Jesus as his, to serve him continually. Come to him, dear boy;
love him because he first loved you; love him for his lovely character; love him
because he loved you well enough to die for you.
Henry, as soon as you were born we prayed that you might be a Christian boy.
We believe that you have felt some of the influence of the Spirit of God upon
your heart; but we want its sweet influence to abide upon you, and the
impressions lasting, your course steady, and you to daily receive grace to
resist temptation.
I must close. Do right because you love to. Preserve these letters I write to
you, and read them often, and if you should be left without a mother's care,
they will be a help to you.
Your affectionate Mother.
Topsham, Maine, Sept. 20, 1859.
My Dear Children: We received your letters to-day. We are now in our old
home, at brother Howland's. I am writing in the room where we first commenced
house-keeping. In this room we prayed for you, Henry, and when the hand of death
seemed to be upon you, the Lord in mercy raised you up in answer to fervent
prayer. In this room we have suffered poverty and trial, yet brother Howland's
family were ever true friends to us in time of need. In this room we have
realised the signal power of God, and enjoyed the rich blessing of his
salvation. This room is endeared to me by past recollections. It is called my
room.
I feel very anxious for the salvation of my children. Especially, you, Henry,
my eldest son, whose life God has so graciously spared.
Dedicate yourself to God in your youth. Love him and serve him. This is our
earnest prayer. Render to God a life of cheerful, willing obedience. Tell the
Lord your desires, and heartily repent of your sins. Seek his forgiveness with
all your heart. Be in earnest and he will be found of you. He will bless you,
and give you the sweet evidence that he accepts you. He will love you with more
than a father or mother's love. We want you to be happy, and saved with the
redeemed.
Your affectionate Mother.
Topsham, Maine, Sept. 20, 1859.
My Dear Little Willie: I will write you a few lines, as I have written to
Henry and Edson. We hope little Willie is well, and happy, and striving to be a
good, obedient boy. We shall be glad to see you, my dear boy, again, and hear
your loving voice. We want you to be good, pleasant, and lovely; then every one
will love you.
You must often visit your grandparents, and try to make them happy. Do not
grieve them by being noisy, but be quiet, mild, and gentle--then they will love
you. I am glad, Willie, you have never troubled us or them with mischievous
actions.
As we were riding in the cars, there were three children in the seat before
us, one of them a little boy about your age. He was dressed prettily. He had a
pretty face and curly hair, yet he did not behave prettily. He disturbed those
who sat near him by his loud, sharp voice, contending with, and annoying, his
sisters, giving them no peace. They threatened to tell their mother, but he did
not seem to care for this. He behaved so rudely, that we were all glad when he
left the cars.
I thought then how bad I should feel if my little Willie was so disagreeable.
Now, Willie, that wicked boy's pretty clothes and handsome face did not make
people love him. His behaviour was bad, and made those who had the care of him
ashamed of him. All seemed pleased to get rid of the troublesome little fellow.
If Willie acts prettily, if he is gentle, kind, and obedient, his father and
mother, and all good people, will love him.
Your affectionate Mother.
Newport, N. H., Oct. 4, 1859.
My Dear Henry: My heart has been pained to witness the movements of an
unfortunate child, without a mind. His skin is fair, his features good; but he
has no intellect. Dear Henry, how thankful I felt to the Lord that my dear boys
were blessed with intellect. I would not have you, my Henry, like that poor boy,
for a house full of gold. How thankful should you be that the Lord has blessed
you with quite good health, and with your reason.
If you only take a noble, manly course, you will make our hearts glad. Our
dear children are precious jewels to us. We dedicated you to God as soon as you
were born. We prayed earnestly from your earliest infancy for you, that your
dispositions would be tempered. We wept for you, when you, dear Henry, lay an
unconscious babe in our arms. We plead with the Lord to put within you a right
spirit, to lead you to his own fold. And now our greatest anxiety is for you. We
love you, we want you saved. We want your conduct to be right, governed by a
sense of duty, and you have a principle, a determination of your own, that you
will do right--not because you are obliged to, but because you love to. For in
right-doing there is no sting, no self-reproach, no self-condemnation; but a
pleasing consciousness of right-doing.
Dear Henry, acquaint yourself with your own faults. You know where you err,
and you are getting to be of that age that you should not depend wholly on us to
tell you that you shall not do this, or that, but study before you move. Ask
yourself, Is this right? will it lead to evil? will it lead to unfaithfulness?
will it lead to deception, or falsehood? shall I feel just as happy after I do
this as before? You can, by thus considering, often decide yourself what right
is. Do nothing that you would not wish us to know. We shall not be unreasonable.
You may, my dear boy, open your whole heart to us, and you need conceal nothing
from us. Who are so well calculated to direct or counsel you aright, as your
parents? Your interest and welfare is certainly dearer to them than it could be
to any others. It is their study how to make you happy, and teach you the ways
of the Lord. Trust your parents ever with your heart's secrets, and they will
tenderly counsel you. I must close. Be faithful, be kind, be obedient. Love the
dear Saviour.
Your affectionate Mother.
Enosburg, Vt., Oct. 15, 1859.
My Dear Edson: The Lord has been very merciful to me on this journey, and has
given me better health than I have had for one year. I have felt quite
light-hearted, and at times have felt the sweet peace of God resting upon me.
How is it with you, Eddie? Are you any homesick, or do you keep so busy you do
not find time to be homesick? I suppose your time is all usefully employed. We
do not mean that you shall work all the time. Light work will not hurt you, but
be healthy exercise for you. We hope you will make some progress in your studies
while we are absent. Be faithful, dear Eddie, and take a right course, that
those who so kindly care for you may love and respect you. I have been so
grateful to hear such good news from you, that you were trying to do right, and
that you had not been wrong, or caused the family grief that you are with.
I want to tell you a little circumstance. Yesterday we were with a family
where there was a poor sick lame boy. He is a cripple for life, and never will
be able to walk or run like other boys. We inquired into the case, and found
this poor boy's affliction was caused by his going into a brook of water when he
was warm. He has since been a great sufferer.
He has an ugly sore on his hip which runs all the time, and one limb is drawn
up some inches shorter than the other. He is a pale, sickly, feeble little
fellow; has been so five years. You may sometimes think we are too careful of
you, and are too particular to keep you out of the river. My dear boy, think of
this poor cripple. How easy it is for young children like you to be a little
careless, or venturesome, and make themselves cripples or invalids for life. I
thought, what if this poor boy was mine; what if I should be compelled to see
you suffer so. Oh, how my heart would ache that I had not been more careful of
you. Eddie, I could but weep as I thought of these things. Your father and
mother love you very much. We instruct and warn you for your good.
Your affectionate Mother.
Brookfield, N. Y., October, 30, 1859.
My Dear Henry and Edson: I will write you a few lines. You remember, Henry,
in my last letter to you I made a suggestion of what I thought to be a good
plan. I do not enforce this; I merely suggest it. I would not bind anything upon
you that is tedious or burdensome. But I thought such a plan as I suggested, if
you could see the help it would be to you in having a principle, and in forming
a good character, you would readily adopt it.
We do not wish to drive you, dear boys, but help you to do right. We love
you. No others can love you as we do. None can feel the interest in you that we
do. We feel very anxious that you should be kept from sinful ways and evil
habits. Satan has great control over the minds of the young, generally, because
they do not go to the true source for strength to resist his temptations, and to
overcome. God loves to have children put their trust in him, and ask him to help
them. The promise is, my dear boys, "Ask, and ye shall receive." Believe ye
receive the things ye ask for, and ye shall have them. Now in the first place
you have the promise that if you ask you shall receive. Then think what you most
need to overcome. Acquaint yourselves with your failings, and then as you feel
you cannot overcome in your own strength, ask God to help you. By doing this you
acknowledge your own weakness, and throw yourselves upon God's arm. He will
sustain you in your efforts to do right. But be careful and do not rely too much
on your own strength and efforts. Ever realise that Satan is continually trying
to lead your young, inexperienced minds to do wrong. In order to resist his
temptations, you must rely upon a power stronger than your own. "Believe ye
receive the things ye ask for, and ye shall have them." Do not merely come to
God and ask; but believe that he will do just as he has said he would. As you
ask, believe he answers, and believe you do receive strength from him.
My dear boys, learn to trust in God. Learn to go to him who is mighty to
save. He knows what you need before you ask him; but he has made this your duty,
and the duty of every one of us, to come to him and ask him in confidence for
what we need. We must comply with the conditions laid down in his word, namely,
"ASK." Tell the dear Saviour just what you need. He that said, "Suffer little
children to come unto me, and forbid them not," will not reject your prayer. But
he will send his angels to guard you and protect you from the evil angels, and
will make it easy for you to do right. Then it will be much easier than if you
should try in your own strength. You may ever feel like this, I have asked God
to help me, and he will do it. I will do right in his strength. I will not
grieve the dear angels that God has appointed to watch over me. I will never
take a course to drive them from me; for if they should leave me I should then
have evil angels around me to control my actions, and lead me to do wickedly,
and grieve my parents. But we do not believe that good angels will leave you;
because we believe you will do right, and encourage their watchful care.
You are none too young to be good Christians, and have children's experience
in the Christian life, and know that your sins are washed away in the blood of
your Redeemer. Time is short, dear children, and we want you to love God, and be
prepared to dwell with pure and good angels in the city of God. Nothing but
goodness and purity, honesty and holiness, can enter heaven. The Lord knows you
are young, and he will help you to do right, and give you grace to overcome
every wrong, every evil. You may not obtain the entire victory at once; but
persevere, keep trying. Say, I will do right, I will resist evil, and the Lord
will help me.
Your affectionate Mother.
Iowa City, Iowa, March 3, 1860.
My Dear Henry and Edson: It is almost dark. I can write but a few lines this
evening. I wish this to be put in the Office tomorrow. I was glad to learn that
you had been to visit Mrs. F., and that you enjoyed the visit. Dear children, I
am very anxious that you should form good characters, that you should overcome
obstacles, and obtain victories yourselves. Study your own temperaments. Learn
your own faults, and what makes you feel unpleasantly and unhappily afterward,
and then shun the cause. Especially do I as a mother charge you to be kind and
forbearing, yielding to, and loving, one another. This will save you many
unhappy hours, many unpleasant reflections. You can be happy if you choose. You
must learn the important lesson of not always having your own way, but of
sacrificing your will and way to gratify and make others happy.
I know a man that is now living, who in youth had his own way, was not
willing to yield his notions, and he grew up to want his own way, and carry out
his own will in everything. We have been acquainted with him for quite a number
of years, and he is, we think, a very unhappy man. He is irritated at once if
every one does not do just as he wishes to have them. When people first see him
they think that he is a good man, but when they become acquainted with him they
change their minds, become tired of him, and wish he was elsewhere. He is a
trial to everybody, is easily out of temper, and makes himself unhappy, and
every one around him.
Now, children, if you would not wish to be like this unhappy man, you must
learn to govern yourselves while young. Don't give way to fretful, unkind
feelings; but remember that the Lord reads even the thoughts of the heart, and
nothing is concealed from his all-seeing eye. Right acts, right thoughts, will
be remembered in heaven, and every victory you gain when tempted to do wrong,
every temptation manfully resisted, will be recorded in heaven. Don't forget,
dear children, that evil deeds are faithfully recorded, and will bring their
punishment unless repented of, and confessed, and washed away by the atoning
blood of Jesus. It is easier to go in an evil way than to do right; for Satan
and his angels are constantly tempting to do wrong.
But there is one who has promised to hear the needy when they cry. Go to God
when tempted to speak or act wrong. Ask him in faith for strength and he will
give it. He will say to his angels, There is a poor little boy trying to resist
the power of Satan, and has come to me for help. I will aid him. Go stand by
that child who is endeavouring to do right, and when the evil angels attempt to
lead his steps astray, gently guide him in the right path, and drive back the
powers of the evil one. Every one of your efforts to do right is regarded of
God. Dear children, live for God--live for heaven, so that when the wrath of God
shall come upon the earth, Jesus may say to the destroying angel, Spare-those
two praying boys, Henry and Edson White. When in temptation they prayed to me to
be delivered. I have washed away their sins. Come not near to destroy them--they
are my jewels, saved by my blood. I will crown them for my kingdom. I will fit
them to dwell in my heavenly mansions forever. They have overcome the
tempter--they have gained the victory. They shall never more be tempted, but be
free and happy eternally.
Dear children, will not such a precious commendation from Jesus be worth a
great deal more than for you to have your own will here, and to give up to sin
and temptation, and to have no thoughts of God or heaven, and make those unhappy
around you, and at last be separated from Jesus, destroyed with the wicked, and
miserably perish from the earth? Is not heaven worth making an effort for? Oh
children, reflect seriously, soberly; and remember if you are saved at last you
must form a character for heaven. I will leave this matter with you for you to
ponder upon.
In all you do, be faithful and thorough, even if it takes you longer. Learn
to be steady and persevering. Have a purpose in all you do, and carry out that
purpose.
Your affectionate Mother.
My Dear Willie: I have just finished a letter to your brothers, and will
write a few lines to you. I should so love to take you, my sweet Willie, in my
arms this moment; but this cannot be. I hope we shall be returned home safely,
that we can see you all again in our own happy home. Willie, you must be a good
boy; you must overcome an impatient spirit. To be impatient, is not to be
willing to wait, to want everything you desire in a moment. You must say to
yourself, I'll wait. "He that is slow to anger, is better than the mighty; and
he that ruleth his spirit, than he that taketh a city." Willie, if you would be
happy, you must rule well your own spirit. Be obedient to Jenny, love your
brothers, and be good all day, and the Lord will love you,--every one will love
you.
Willie, dear boy, you have been our sunshine, and I have prayed that you
might always be the same pure, sweet Willie. Try to do right. Be kind, be
patient and loving. The Lord loves little children, and when they try to do
right, he is pleased with them. When you go to your grand-father's, you must not
act rough and boisterous, but gentle and mild. When the boys go to the Office,
you must try and not be lonesome. Make yourself contented and happy. Don't fret,
but learn to be patient, my dear boy. We love you very much, and will now say
good by for the present.
Your affectionate Mother.
Iowa City, Iowa, March 14, 1860.
My Dear Willie: We have not forgotten you, my dear boy. When we see other
little children around, we long to get our little Willie in our arms again, and
press his little soft cheek, and receive his kiss. In about five weeks we shall
be at home again, and then, Willie, we will work in the garden, and tend the
flowers and plant the seeds. You must be a good, sweet, little boy, and love to
obey Jenny and Lucinda. Give up your will, and when you wish to do anything very
much, inquire, Is it not selfish? You must learn to yield your will and your
way. It will be a hard lesson for my little boy to learn, but it will in the end
be worth more to him than gold. [* BY THE BLESSING OF GOD AND HIS MOTHER'S
INSTRUCTIONS, WILLIE HAS OVERCOME THE IMPATIENT SPIRIT WHICH HE SOMETIMES
MANIFESTED WHEN QUITE YOUNG, AND HE NOW POSSESSES A MOST AFFECTIONATE, AMIABLE,
AND OBEDIENT DISPOSITION. A.P.P.] Learn, my dear Willie, to be patient, to wait
others' time and convenience; then you will not get impatient and irritable. The
Lord loves those little children who try to do right, and he has promised that
they shall be in his kingdom. But wicked children God does not love. He will not
take them to the beautiful City, for he only admits the good, obedient, and
patient children there. One fretful, disobedient child, would spoil all the
harmony of heaven. When you feel tempted to speak impatient and fretful,
remember the Lord sees you, and will not love you if you do wrong. When you do
right and overcome wrong feelings, the Lord smiles upon you.
Although he is in heaven, and you cannot see him, yet he loves you when you
do right, and writes it down his book; and when you do wrong, he puts a black
mark against you. Now, dear Willie, try to do right always, and then no black
mark will be set down against you; and when Jesus comes he will call for that
good boy Willie White, and will put upon your head a wreath of gold, and put in
your hand a little harp that you can play upon, and it will send forth beautiful
music, and you will never be sick, never be tempted then to do wrong; but will
be happy always, and will eat of rich fruit, and will pluck beautiful flowers.
Try, try, dear boy, to be good.
Your affectionate Mother.
Marion, Iowa, March 18, 1861.
My Dear Children, Henry, Edson, and Willie: We are now at Bro. Snook's. This
is a good home. When I see their little babe, and take it in my arms, I yearn
for my own dear babe which we laid in Oak Hill Cemetery; but I will not permit
one murmuring thought to arise. I enjoy the society of this family. Sister Snook
is an excellent woman.
To-morrow we visit brother and sister Weaver, who have charge of the hotel at
Fairview. What a change we see in them since our last visit to this State. Then
we were entertained at their hotel and treated kindly; but they were not then
converted to the truth. Now our hearts are united, and we shall enjoy the visit.
I am suffering from severe cold settled on my lungs. My mind runs home to my
children. Children, be faithful. Do right, and you will be respected. We think
much of you, and want you to form good Christian characters, which will make you
happy and us also. Obey Jenny as you would me. Try to please her, and do not
show a reluctance to help her, but do what she wishes cheerfully and happily. Do
as William directs you. We have placed you under his care while you are at the
Office. Take a course to gain the love and respect of all.
Little Willie, you must be a sweet, good-tempered little boy. May the Lord
bless you all, dear children. This is our earnest prayer. Do not fail to write
us.
Your affectionate Mother.
Dartmouth, Mass., Sept. 15, 1859.
My Dear Children: You should feel grateful to God for his care over you.
Morning and evening you should have an interest in, and respect for, the hour of
prayer, and from your hearts offer to God true gratitude. Shut out from your
thoughts everything which would divert the mind from God, and while others are
praying, fix your thoughts upward. When you pray, tell the dear Saviour just
what you want in order to be kept from sin, and that you may have a heart to
glorify him. Jesus deserves your gratitude and love. If you lack these things
you cannot be children of God. Jesus can give you strength to overcome every
fault. He can strengthen you in your purposes to do right. Keep from bad
company. If you are annoyed or threatened in the streets by quarrelsome boys, do
not retaliate. It is truly noble to forgive and pass over a wrong; but it is
mean and cowardly to revenge an injury. Let me entreat you to be above
everything like engaging in a dispute, or speaking disrespectfully or sneeringly
of those who annoy you, and do not respect themselves enough to behave properly.
Such boys are to be pitied. They have but little happiness.
Seek to set a noble example to others, and make them happy. Do not repeat
things which you have heard to the injury of another. Ever seek to make peace.
Jesus says, "Blessed are the peacemakers; for they shall be called the children
of God." If you, my dear children, strive to make peace with one another, and
ever love as brothers should, you will be blessed. Reflect, dear boys, if one of
you should die and be laid in the silent grave, how bitterly would the living
feel over every unkind word that had been spoken, every act which had
grieved--all would be revived. Every little unkindness would prove a thorn to
wound your heart.
Your affectionate Mother.
Plum River, Ills. March 25, 1861.
My Dear Sons, Henry, Edson, and Willie: I have been troubled in mind in
regard, to you. The evening after the Sabbath I dreamed I was watching over
Edson. He had been very sick, and was dying. Oh the anguish of my heart in that
hour. I could not have the evidence that he loved God, and was prepared to die.
I called Henry to me and told him that he and Willie were all that were left me.
The three-fold cord was broken, and how lonely we all felt. I thought in my
dream of the death-struggle of my dear babe, and next of Edson, and then of the
unprepared state in which he died, and it seemed that my heart would break. I
awoke myself weeping aloud.
Dear children, this dream has caused me to reflect, and has cast a sadness
upon my spirits that I cannot immediately throw off. You are none of you too
young to die. Do you understand the plan of salvation? Your righteousness cannot
recommend you to God. I do not think that you are yet adopted into his family.
Our sins caused Jesus to die a shameful death, that through his sufferings and
death we might receive pardon. Can we receive the forgiveness of sins before we
feel that we are sinners? and before we realise the sinfulness of sin? I think
not. When we repent before God of our sins sincerely, we shall feel that without
the pardoning blood of Christ we must perish. If we cast ourselves in our
wretchedness wholly upon the mercy of Christ, and feel that unless he saves us
we perish; when we yield our own will, our own way, and plead for Jesus to
control our will and actions, then we come into a position where we can receive
and appreciate pardon and the forgiveness of sin.
I am not writing to reprove you, children. You have been very kind, obedient
children to us--sometimes wayward, but not stubborn. I hope you do not look at
others who act wrong, and flatter yourselves that you are righteous, because you
do better than they, but think seriously upon the good instruction you have had,
and then inquire if you should not be far in advance of what you are. In short,
have you not had sufficient light to yield your hearts to God, and love to
follow Jesus, and be influenced by his sweet Spirit?
Your affectionate Mother.
Eagle Harbour, N. Y., July 26, 1861.
My Dear Children, Henry and Edson: We have not forgotten you, dear boys; but
we often think of you, and pray that blessing of God may be with you. We are
anxious that you should form correct habits. We are from you so much, and you
are left so much to yourselves, that you may be in danger of falling into
careless habits, which will not increase your happiness, and which may make
those around you unhappy.
I have just been reading in a book entitled, "How to be a Man." I will copy a
few lines, and you can apply as your case is met. "Slovenliness. A slovenly boy
makes himself a deal of needless trouble, and greatly tires the patience of his
mother. If you go into his room you find it always in confusion. His things are
scattered about, here and there, some on the bed, some on the chairs, and some
on the floor, but none in their places. He either has no particular place for
anything, or else he takes no pains to put things in their places. He leaves a
thing where he uses it. Hence if he wants anything he never knows where to look
for it, unless he happens to remember where he used it last. He must waste his
time in hunting for it. Hence you will often hear him impatiently inquiring if
any one has seen his things, when he ought himself to know where they are. If he
goes into another person's room, whatever article he lays his hand upon is
misplaced. And so it is if he uses any of his father's tools. He never thinks of
putting anything where he found it. He throws it down carelessly wherever he
happens to be, or else puts it in the wrong place. With these untidy habits, is
associated carelessness. He never seems to be thinking what he is about. He lays
his hat on a chair, or throws it upon the floor. Thus he tries the patience of
his mother, and makes himself unwelcome at his own home."
Dear children, I do not write merely for your amusement, but for your
improvement. Learn where you fail, and then commence the work of reform in
earnest. You must learn order. Have set hours to work in the garden, set hours
in the heat of the day to arrange your garden seeds, set hours to read and
improve your minds. Spend no precious moments in bickerings and finding fault
with each other. This disturbs your own happiness, and pleases the enemy.
Remember the eye of God is ever upon you. Endeavour to please him in all your
acts. Make your peace with him while you are in health. Your parents have a deep
interest for you. Our greatest desire is that you may be subjects of grace. You
will never be saved against your will. You must prize salvation, and submit to
be saved in the Lord's appointed way. Humble repentance of sin, and faith in
Jesus as your Saviour, will be required on your part, and He is faithful that
hath promised. He will accept you, and give you of his salvation. If you deny
yourselves in many things, and refrain from sin for a season only, this will not
be sufficient. It is a life of obedience which will please God and be acceptable
to him. Delay not to make an entire consecration to God, that your names may be
recorded in the Lamb's book of life.
Your affectionate Mother.
My Dear Willie: I have just finished a letter to your brothers, and will now
write you a few lines. I was glad to hear that you loved to visit grandpa and
grandma White. Tell them that we have not forgotten them. We wish them to have a
special care for their health. We hope they are well and happy. You must do your
part to make them happy. They love you, Willie, very much, because you are not
mischievous, and do not make them trouble by disarranging grandfather's tools.
You should never grieve them by being noisy, for this often annoys aged people.
Be mild and gentle. You know that you dislike very much to play with rough,
noisy boys. You feel annoyed with their ways. When you notice their failures,
never do what you dislike in them. You have been a great comfort to us, because
you have always been so anxious to do as we wished you to. This is right. You
will be happy as long as you possess this spirit, and are so obedient. Visit
your grandparents often, and study to make them happy, and they will always love
you. Don't forget to pray, Willie. You love to go aside with your mother and
spend a few moments in prayer. You can do the same although I am not with you.
Jesus, the dear Saviour, will hear you just the same when alone. Don't neglect
these seasons of prayer, my dear boy.
Your affectionate Mother.
Rochester, N. Y., July, 1861.
My Dear Children, Henry and Edson: I will now write some things which are the
opposite of slovenly and careless habits, copied from the same book from which
the extract in my former letter was taken:
"The neat, orderly and careful boy has an invariable rule; 'A place for every
thing, and every thing in its place.' Go into his room at any hour, you will
find everything in order. He can go in the dark and lay his hands upon anything
that he wants, so that he never runs the risk of setting the house on fire by
carrying a light into his bed-room. He never leaves a thing at random where he
happens to be using it, but always puts it where it belongs. When he undresses,
every article of his clothing is folded and laid together in the order that it
will be wanted in the morning, so that he loses no time in hunting for it. He is
equally careful of his person. He never considers himself dressed, till he has
washed his hands and face, cleaned his teeth, and combed his hair; and he never
thinks of setting down to the table with dirty hands. He learns to keep his
clothes neat and clean. He never forgets to use the scraper at the door, to
remove the mud from his feet, and he makes it an invariable rule never to pass a
mat without wiping his shoes. He never says, like the sloven, 'I didn't think,'
to excuse himself. He would consider it unpardonable in him not to think; for
what is the ability of thinking worth, if it never comes when it is wanted. The
neat, orderly boy makes himself agreeable to his mother, or guardian, and
friends, who are always glad to see him coming home. And home is a delightful
place to him, because he meets with smiles and pleasant words. But the sloven
exposes himself to sour looks and chiding, by his dirty habits; and he finds
home a disagreeable place, because he makes it so."
We want you, dear boys, to be patterns of neatness and order. Willie looks to
you for example. He has great confidence that you do everything about right. Any
wrong, careless habits in you, would be learning your youngest brother lessons
which would make him unhappy, and cause us much inconvenience and grief. We are
absent from you much, and you should feel that a responsibility rests upon you,
my dear boys, to strictly guard yourselves from falling into wrong habits, and
also save your brother Willie from doing wrong. A noble example before him, will
do much to influence him to preserve correct habits. We commit you to God,
earnestly praying that his angels may guard you all three, and incline your
hearts to love him.
Your affectionate Mother.
Grass River, N. Y. Aug., 1861.
My Dear Children: We, your father and mother, feel a deep interest for you.
You may sometimes think that your parents are too strict, that they watch you
too closely; but, dear boys, our love for you is great. We have dedicated you to
God. You are his, and we must keep you separate from the world, that you may be
the Lord's. We want your lives to be right and pleasing in his sight. Don't feel
discouraged, my children. Satan is ready to lead your young minds; but go to
God, seek him for strength, pray much, give your hearts' best affections to him.
Henry, you are my first-born, the eldest of my
boys. A responsibility rests upon you. You will have to render an
account for the influence you exert over your brothers. Love your
brothers. Their salvation depends much on the course you pursue.
Have your regular seasons of prayer for each other, and with each
other. Don't let your love for writing, and your study, divert your mind, and cause you to neglect those duties
which ought to be done.
We want you saved. We want you to be just right, and to live for God, and be
an honour to his cause. Watch, Edson, against your besetments. Be sober, be
watchful, and God will enable you to overcome. My dear little Willie, may the
Lord bless you. We shall pray for you. Pray for yourselves.
Your affectionate Mother.
Lodi, Wis., March 5, 1862.
My Dear Children: We have been having the most tedious snow-storm I have
witnessed since we came from Maine. It commenced to snow last Sabbath, and has
snowed and blowed until to-day, Tuesday. We can say with grateful hearts, the
Lord is with us. We have had an unusual degree of freedom in the Lord. We hope
you are well at home. We do not forget to pray for you. We believe the Lord will
have a care for you, our dear children. We have entrusted you to his care. We
are very anxious for your salvation, and pray earnestly that you may be lambs of
Christ's fold, and have the constant watchcare of the good Shepherd. I feel
grateful that I can leave you and feel so free in regard to home.
I am anxious you should encourage habits of order. Have a place for
everything, and everything in its place. Take time to arrange your room, and
keep it in order. We do not wish you to apply yourselves too closely to your
studies, neither do we wish you to work hard. But a life of idleness is a life
of sin. Satan finds employment for idle hands and minds. We want you to grow up
healthy and useful.
Above all things, seek God while in health, that he may be your support and
strength if you should be sick or dying. Your parents have the deepest interest
for you. But we cannot repent of your sins for you. We cannot take you to
heaven. God alone in his love and infinite mercy can save you, and Jesus, the
dear Saviour, invites you to his loving arms. He offers you salvation freely, if
you will believe in him, love him, and render cheerful obedience. Do so, dear
children. "They that seek Me early, shall find Me." May the Lord lead you, dear
children, to his own fold.
Your affectionate Mother.
Avon, Wis., July 25, 1862.
My Dear Children, Henry, Edson, and Willie: We arrived safely at this place
last evening. We reached Chicago Wednesday evening between the hours of eight
and nine, and stopped at the Eagle Hotel. I was very weary. Thursday morning I
laid down in my room to rest while your father went out in the city. He returned
just in time to take the cars, and brought a basket of fruit--of tomatoes,
peaches, and apples. They were very nice. We ate the fruit with our bread taken
from home.
We have tried, dear children, to commit your case to God. We trust you in his
hands. Remember what we have said to you. You know our wishes well. We have
confidence that you will have a principle to do right, because you love the
right, and despise every wrong act. Take good care, Henry and Edson, of your
little brother Willie. If he should learn any wrong and bad habits, it would
distress me very much. Try to make each other happy. Don't seek to have your own
way, but yield one to another. Be affectionate, kind, and true to each other.
God will help you if you call upon him for help. Satan is busy, but with the
strength you obtain from God you can resist him. Don't let your minds dwell upon
low things. Think of heaven, of the compassionate, loving Saviour, who died for
you. Oh, what love, what marvellous love is this!
Return this love by yielding to him the best and holiest affections of your
hearts. All that you can do is to give yourselves to him, and obey him. God help
you to be faithful, is the prayer of your parents, who sincerely love you.
Your affectionate Mother.
Newport, N. H., Oct. 23, 1863.
My Dear Children, Henry, Edson, and Willie: We feel somewhat anxious in
regard to you. We know that you are with one of the best of families, and we
wish you to act in a manner to be esteemed by them. Cultivate habits of
refinement. Be elevated in your conversation and all your acts. Be constantly
fitting for the society of the good and holy here, and the pure and heavenly in
the kingdom of God. Be ever striving to fill some position where you can be of
use and do good. Don't chat and talk merely for the sake of saying something.
Never talk unless you have something to say--something which will add to the
general information of those with whom you converse. Children, let your aim be
to be right, just right. Let not others who love not God be your patterns, but
imitate the life of Christ.
Cause the family with whom you live as little trouble as you can. Be very
guarded on the Sabbath. Henry, you must try to interest your brothers in
scriptural and moral reading. I think it your duty to study the Bible more on
the Sabbath. Says the Saviour, "Search the Scriptures; for in them ye think ye
have eternal life." You will have a conflict to be right. I don't command you to
read the Bible--I never shall. I want you to read the Bible because you love it,
not because you are driven to it, for then it will be an unpleasant task. But if
you neglect the reading of the Bible, you will lose your love for it. Those who
love the word of God are those who read it most. By reading and searching out
scripture references, you will see the chain of truth, and will see new beauties
in the word of God. While you make the Scriptures more your study, and become
more familiar with them, you will be better fortified against the temptations of
Satan. When inclined to speak, or act, wrong, some scripture will come to arrest
you, and turn you right. It is not natural for the heart to love the Bible; but
when it is renewed by grace, then the mind will feast upon the rich truths and
promises contained in the word of God. Watch and pray, children, lest you be
overcome by the enemy. Make persevering efforts for everlasting life. Live
Christian lives, and ever keep the glory of God in view. Much love to you, my
dear children.
Your affectionate Mother.
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